“Hemingway didn’t know he was Ernest Hemingway when he was a young man. Faulkner didn’t know he was William Faulkner. But they had to take the first step. They had to call themselves writers. That is the first revolutionary act a writer has to make. It takes courage. But it’s necessary.”
— Pat Conroy, My Losing Season
I laugh when I read this snippet of Pat’s memoir because, like all his commentary on writing, it is so true, so wise and so very Conroy.
By the time I met him in 2003 and we became friends, he had long crossed the cultural divide from acclaimed to iconic, which he pretty much loathed (his word). He did enjoy obsessing about his obsession, and did so, in his journals and by phone, all the time. He seemed afraid that the rest of his writer friends, not having achieved a quarter of his success, might actually do that thing we all constantly threatened and give up writing in favor of a day job.
To Pat, quitting was not an option, and being both persuasive and generous, he urged the rest of us forward with an enthusiasm that was equal parts drill instructor, evangelist and hustling point guard. He could not actually make the shot for us, but he could get us to the paint with his constant advice and encouragement. They were offered with the ferocity of old Santini, that we play harder, run faster; repent of timidity and write something that made our readers laugh; that made them weep.
A lesser man would have settled for cry, but Pat was not a lesser man. His iconic status wasn’t built on minimalism, and I never saw him, in life or in fiction, choose a pedestrian word when a brighter, older, more emotive word would do. Weep is a good example: a word with multiple vowels and cultural roots, and that sound, that eeeee. In the hands of a good storyteller, on the right part of the page, it could break your heart – which was exactly Pat’s intention; if not to break, at least to bruise.
To him, good writing was like good basketball: a contact sport. In order to achieve loft in storytelling, you had to be willing to wade in and risk ridicule; to lose a little skin in the game. He was the first one to admit it was a perilous occupation. When asked about the high rate of mental illness among writers, he pointed out that one of the requirements of the life was that you sat alone all day in a room, just you and a desk and four walls. It was solitary confinement. With critics.
The solitude would break you if you let it, and when released from his desk, he sought out kindred spirits; fellow writers who were also doing time in solitary, searching for that perfect word. He called a round of friends almost every day, and spent most of his evenings on his favorite talking and visiting spot: the back porch of his house in Beaufort that had a glorious sunset view of Battery Creek. He called it the Cigar Porch because good cigars were the single vice he was allowed to the end – that and discussing his religion: good writing.
Come and join us here on his digital porch where we will let down our hair and indulge in some porch talk of our own, with plenty of laughter, encouragement, and good advice on all the perilous and rewarding aspects of the writing life. Our contributors will be drawn from every state in the union, and every discipline, some bestselling and well-known, others you will be happy to meet. We’ll also showcase a few academics, along with essays by our own writing teachers and staff and snippets of wisdom from the hand of the Master himself, who will loom so close that you’ll be able to detect the smell of a fine cigar.
Please join us as often as you can, either online or in our new home in Beaufort. Trust me, Pat would have been glad to see you. He was a famous host and a devout writer to the end; never happier than when he had a convert.
I loved Pat Conroy and even more, his love of the marsh and coastal life!
His writing was cosmic magic, soul-bearing and raw labor.
This literary center project has my vote, and my donation!
A perfect way to honor Pat and keep his memory alive and inspiring.
Thank you so much Constance. I was just in Beaufort and his presence is very much a Presence.
Pat Conroy amazes me on so many levels. Thank you for making this happen.
I remember Pat when I was a little girl, going to all of The Citadel’s home basketball games. He and my father, an English professor there, were friends. Pat would come over to us after each game, tired, wringing wet, and grinning. Always grinning. He would take the time to talk to me which I remember over 50 years later. He wasn’t Pat Conroy then. He was a kind cadet named Pat.
I’m so glad I found this site and this “Porch!” Pat and I shared a few moments in West Palm Beach at an event; we even shared an unexpected photo my sister took of us – a cherished photo! – as we laughed about our mutual passion for Gamecocks baseball.
Count me in as often as possible to contribute to and learn from others here.
I discovered Pat Conroy at the Savannah Book Festival several years ago. Through his words, I have fallen in Love with the Low Country and feel very blessed to live here. My favorite vacation memory is one where I spent a long weekend in Beaufort. I was staying at a bed & breakfast down in the historic district. Pat had a special event promoting “Death of Santini” on campus followed by a reception in one of the old rice plantation homes. Pat was “holding court” at the kitchen table telling stories surrounded by fans, family and friends. This same weekend was also the time of the Beaufort Tour of Homes. It was a beautiful time!
I love the idea of “Porch Talk”!
His literature tells me that his life was filled with pain as well as joy. A lot of pain. He was/is my favorite writer. Where did the words come from?
“Where did the words come from?” is the exact question I ask when reading his beautiful stories. The only answer I have is from God. How else could so many be so deeply impacted by His words?
My favorite Author. I was delighted to hear him speak in Virginia at George Mason University and also once in Hilton Head. I would have loved to have had a conversation with him. He understood what human emotions
were in all of the situations we face in a lifetime. His lovely, soulful words made such an impact. What a gift!
Pat Conroy helped me to understand my Dad, a USMC war veteran. I am so very thankful for this. His writing is beautiful and profound. We all know this. I just wanted to say say thank you.
I was raised in South Carolina, but didn’t discover Pat Conroy until after I moved to Iowa. I was in Denver for a convention and another of the attendees recommended I read “Beach Music.” I fell in love with Pat’s writing and I’ve read everything he’s published. When I read “My Losing Season” and “The Great Santini,” I felt I was reading about my own childhood with an abusive father. I felt like he was writing my story. In “The Prince of Tides,” he wrote about moving the town of Colleton to build a nuclear weapons plant. I once lived in New Ellenton, SC, which used to be Ellenton, SC, until the town was moved to make way for the Savannah River Plant. Or, as my step-father called it, the “bomb” plant. I can relate to Pat’s stories in countless ways. I recently decided to read all of his books again, in chronological order. I’m currently about half-way through “Beach Music” and can’t wait to get to the next book. In my second adventure through Pat’s work, I’m discovering things I didn’t pick up on the first time through. It’s like reading them for the first time. I only wish I could have met him at a book signing.
I first fell in love with Pat’s writing when I read Beach Music. I simply couldn’t put it down. I’d never read anything like that before. Then came, The Water us Wide, Prince of Tides, The Great Santini, and the rest.
After reading, The Water us Wide, I began culling my journal entries for my own truth. Before long I had written several essays that later became a memoir; my very first book.
For me, reading Pat’s books was transformative. It changed me and it changed the way I read.
I’m forever indebted to his brave truth telling.
The writing is delicious…leaves you wanting it to never end. As in previous comments, I am now “re-visiting” several Conroy books–checking for some phrase or thought that I may have missed!
What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside you. Pat Conroy touched people’s hearts, he shared his very personal life experiences. He was vulnerable. He reached out through writing 🖊 and inspired others to forgive, be the best they could be. His spirit will live on for years to come. Thank you Pat.
The (Pat) Conroy Literacy Center is full of Pat’s low-country love for books. His memory will be supported by me again this year. I hope to make it to Beaufort again for the Literacy festival and to spend a little time with his family members and so many other talented authors. storytellers , classes and speakers.
I try to share Pat’s masterpiece My Losing Season with everyone I know who loves basketball. It is the greatest frank discussion of the damage a father with no empathy can do to a son.
I was raised with “Marine brats” near El Toro Marine base in ORANGE COUNTY, CA., now decommissioned, but in its day one of the largest in America. I remember the discipline and rigor with which those girls (and boys) were raised. One, my best friend from 6th grade all through junior college, couldn’t get away too fast nor far enough. Went to France and never came back. They all had anxiety issues.
I know the stories my sister in law has told me- daughter of the commanding officer and trainer of the young men who went off to Vietnam to operate the helicopters he’d been training them on-many never returned. She remembers the farewell dinners her mother would arrange for the young soldiers and to this day, cannot watch war movies and refused to go to Cuba with her husband because “her dad would be spinning in his grave”. He was standing off Bay of Pigs, providing cover when that debacle occurred.
I love everything Pat write, but somehow My Losing Season really grabbed me. What a talent.
I listened to Beach Music on CD prior to presently reaching the 457th page of Prince of Tides. Pat Conroy was all that writing should be, well able to describe in the minutest detail thoughts and feelings of any moment in anyone’s life, to cause startling events to spring off the page, and induce this normally tearless man to weep.
Reading is definitely a slower process to the finish. Thankfully, being able to mark masterful passages and words unknown to me, to sip those rich lines again and again, will be a lifelong treat. He was well able to, as he once wrote, “dance with words” which does more than make me jealous and prods me to push on.
And yes, one must be willing to endure solitude to write. It is a requirement, because the searching demands quiet. If only the right words were at the tip of one’s tongue or fingers. I can only wish to have as many descriptive words, perhaps half of them, in years to come.
I do not merely read Pat Conroy’s books, but use them as sources for building a better vocabulary. From “The Prince of Tides” I took these words and their passages, but did not include their meaning due to the multitude of choices definitions and synonyms offered on sites. Here’s the list, maybe you can use it. Taken from the copyright 1986 version, ISBN 0-395-35300-9
1. Cordovan — “glistening like cordovan” pg. 6
2. Cineiform – “They were impenetrable, a kind of cuneiform of wit” pg. 28
3. Politesse – “we were vaccinated with the oily serums of an instinctive politesse” pg. 31
4. Congruence – “my mouth moved in congruence with hers” pg. 32
5. Subjugate – “I felt the supernatural power of poetry subjugate the crowd” pg. 32
6. Senescent – “pausing on each step to wait for her senescent, barely ambulatory French poodle”
7. Imperturbable – “There was an imperturbable dignity” pg 34
8. Aggrievements – “what benedictions and aggrievements each of us had carried from the island” ;g 43
9. Mordant – “bitterness of our mordant chronicle” pg 43
10. Inimitable – “private, inimitable demons” pg 44
11. Annealed – “annealed to hostility” pg 48
12. Multifarious – “multifarious guises” pg 48
13. Occlusions – “small subsidies and occlusions of humor” pg 50
14. Plangent – “moved through the plangent light” pg 58
15. Chiaroscuro – “who stood in the chiaroscuro of the dim light of the hallway” pg 59
16. Elegiac – “elegiac loneliness” pg 64
17. Virulent – “wind-urged and virulent” pg 66
18. Cassock and surprice – “hung his cassock and surprice in a small closet” pg 68
19. Indeterminancy – “the enemy was indeterminancy as I sat surrounded by books” pg 84
20. Lineaments and Nonpareil – “shape me into the smooth lineaments of their nonpareil child”
21. Supererogatory – “and this was a state of supererogatory grace” pg 86
22. Interregnum – “take my full measure of a man, a troubled interregnum before I ventured into the pitfalls” pg 87
23. Insouciant – “a French bakery run by a insouciant Madame from Lyon” pg. 87
24. Incorporeal – “almost incorporeal in her stillness” pg. 89
25. Assizes – “unfamiliar with the assizes and codes that govern human behavior” pg 90
26. Coefficient – It was the coefficient of their beauty” pg 90
27. Incongruous – “It has always struck me as incongruous that stunning women..” pg. 91
28. Gamboling – “followed our barefooted gamboling across the grass” pg 93
29. Susurrant – “their voices, low and susurrant” pg. 94
30. Torpor – “a melancholy resignation and torpor” pg 94
31. Impregnable and filigreed and brocaded – “some with impregnable essence, a filigreed and brocaded façade” pg. 94
32. Inimical – “Turks attacking him with countless, inimical battalions” pg. 103
33. Garrulous – “assured by a garrulous Papa John” pg 106
34. Circumvallated — “a large deciduous forest, circumvallated by a low stone fence” pg 107
35. Expiation — “He would require expiation.” Pg 110
36. Portmanteau – “It became a catchall, portmanteau word for everything” pg 112
37. Hauteur — “an imperturbable combination of hauteur and studied indifference” pg 117
38. Imperiously – “Then he took our orders, imperiously, as though we were issuing stock options” pg 117
39. Philatelists – “she transformed us into passionate philatelists” pg 125
40. Peregrinations – “and wrote him engaging, sisterly letters throughout her peregrinations” pg 127
41. Disquisition – “a word-for-word disquisition” pg 130
42. Incontrovertible – “she looked upon his deliverance in Germany as incontrovertible proof that God was alive” pg. 142
43. Imprimatur – “She was ignorant of the laws of imprimatur” pg 143
44. Minatory — “There was nothing insurrect or minatory in these early writings” pg 156
45. Concubinage – “where memory had entered a fatal concubinage with suffering” pg 161
46. Frontispiece and discomposed — “The arch professionalism was a frontierpiece erected to ward off the discomposed superiority of men” pg 163
47. Scrupulosities — “I thanked God for the scrupulosities of gifted cooks” pg 164
48. Distillations — “more vivid distillations and tonics” pg 175
49. Bifurcated – “studied her abbreviated, bifurcated life line” pg 174
50. Divagation – “She believed in every divagation and acknowledgement of the Ouija board” pg. 175
51. Verities — “Her faith was a catechism of undigested verities” pg 174
52. Unctuous — “his voice was reptilian and unctuous” pg 178
53. Paroxysms — “Between paroxysms we heard her beg” pg 185
54. Cinquefoils — “Time had marked her early and cruelly with all the ben sisisters and cinquefoils of its inerasable heraldry.” Pg 195
55. Fabulist – “her own history with the reckless, renegade eye of the fabulist” pg 214
56. Antipodes — “I could never resolve the irregularities along the antipodes or in the torrid zones.” Pg 214
57. Lanquidly – “”floating over golf greens, languidly sitting beside aquamarine pools” pg 215
58. Proviso and sanguine – “it was this final proviso that endowed my mother with the sanguine expectation” pg 216
59. Auto-de-fe – “little discretion or protocol to these bloodless auto-da-fe of small town southern life” pg 216
60. Assiduous – “taking assiduous notes” pg. 217
61. Emendations “making subtle emendations and improvements” pg 217
62. Crispate – “seasoned with the crispate herbs and vegetables” pg 215
63. Elegiac — “it was a summer extravagant, almost elegiac, happiness for all of us” pg 236
64. Prescience – “met briefly in that blinding prescience and telepathy sometimes granted to the twins” pg 226
65. Disconsolate – “we could hear the disconsolate sounds of trees” pg 229
66. Enfilading – “We did not know that trees could die beneath aloud in sharp, enflading reports” pg. 229
67. Frissons – “The frissons of her unalterable pride made her incapable of asking her neighbors for help.” Pg 231
68. Ineluctable — “Yet it will always remain one of life’s most ineluctable mysteries” pg 242
69. Argosies — “His fists were the argosies of his rule” pg 242
70. Limpid – “He lacked all those incommunicable, limpid depths that introspection might provide” pg. 243
71. Insurrect – “by examining my father privately with the insurrect, unforgiving eye of a damaged child.” Pg 243
72. Vellum – “with layers of calluses the color of vellum” pg 244
73. Unattenuated – “my mother’s speciously cultivated and unattenuated tastes” pg. 244
74. Chasubles — “The nets hung from the uplifted outriggers life dark chasubles.” Pg. 245
75. Parabola — “would launch it anew in a towering parabola toward the other side of the ring.” Pg 258
76. Eviscerated — “one great swipe of his claws, eviscerated the seal” pg 258
77. Concolorous — “Rising, she hung suspended, concolorous with peaches and high-risen moons” pg.277
78. Chiaroscuro — “he gazed at us facelessly, a remote chiaroscuro, a pillar of light and shadow” pg 278
79. Cloisonné — “The foyer was decorated with velvet-covered chairs, cloisonné vases…” pg. 284
80. Candelabrum — “transformed itself into an amazing candelabrum of symmetrical light” pg 286
81. Sommelier — “serving the wine with a sommelier trained in burlesque” pg. 287
82. Vociferous and intransigent — “Last year he had been the most vociferous and intransigent member of the staff” pg 327
83. Pixilation — “the pixilation of cheerleaders” pg 332
84. Execrably – “she treated her books execrably” pg 348
85. Calyxes — “They wrote about calyxes and pomegranates, but their theme was meaningless.” Pg 349
86. Abstruseness — “modern poets should be immunized against abstruseness” pg 349
87. Plenipotentiary – “roaring, plenipotentiary authority of the city” pg 384
88. Palisades — “who had created elaborate palisades to defend themselves” pg 393
89. Bilious — “an orgy of yea-saying that left me bilious” pg 392
90. Pastille — “Our nostrils quiver with the incense of home, the keen pastille of our mother country.” Pg 400
91. Ineffable – “lost on the continuum of time, ineffable and wordless” pg408
92. Concupiscent — “with a primitive hunger so concupiscent that it seemed to poison the air” pg 411
93. Borealis – “a happy borealis of sound” pg 428
94. Mimesis — “of sublime and self-effacing mimesis” pg. 430
95. Mordant – “Every word seemed well chosen, dewy with spontaneity, mordant and fast on its feet” pg 430
96. Dramatis personae — “I tried to make sense out of the dramatis personae” pg 432
97. Uneuphonious — “by clinging to her rather uneuphonious maiden name” pg 432
98. Efflorescing — “intercept the vast swarms of shrimp efflorescing in the creeks” pg 461
99. Manumission — “we also provide her manumission from the narrowness of that flawed self-definition” pg466
100. Incongruity — “It lost that blithe magic I associate with earned incongruity.” Pg. 478
101. Obliquity – “the raw obliquity of circumstance” pg 484
102. Bateau – “One of his friends was paddling his small bateau through the marsh: pg. 529
103. Spartina — “flushing the birds from their hiding places in the lush spartina” pg 529
I have just enjoyed reading the comments posted by others. I have read all of Pat’s published works, including “The Boo” and his cookbook. I, like Pat and some of those who have shared their experiences above, was raised by an abusive father. I have Pat to thank for realizing I was not alone, and how to put those memories in their proper place. I also was delighted to read the comment concerning the words Pat used that were previously unknown to me. I always have a dictionary beside me when I read anyone, but especially Pat. I once heard William Shakespeare quoted as having said, “why use a small word when a big one will do.” If true, Pat was in good company. I know that Pat’s literary heroes included Hemmingway, Faulkner and Fitzgerald among others, in my opinion he learned well to the point of surpassing them. He is certainly missed.
I believe Pat Conroy once admitted to having a thesaurus close by as he wrote. The above list of the words he used was a dedicated work for me with the purpose of allowing the words to be read through them again and again, with the hope of gluing to my mind a better vocabulary.
The only book of his I have yet to read is “The Boo”. All others I read over the course of three months, days after I chose to quit the book club in which I was a member for a few years. It frustrated me to suggest a book for reading, have it accepted, but when the time came for the monthly discussion of most any novel I thought would be either informative or a challenge, most of the comments were something like, “I couldn’t get through the first few pages.” Our gathering, then would last only for a short time. Even Pat Conroy’s “Prince of Tides” I once proposed, to which I heard, “Oh please, not that depressing stuff.”
So, these days, I read what I like of my couple thousand book library and hope one day to have the patience to actually complete the writing of my own novel. Initially, I thought the topic of my personal experience with childhood dysfunction would make a bestseller, but I think also that there may just be far too many of those stories already published. If I do it, I’d better get started, as I am adding years to my retirement as the days pass.
I am presently reading (at the 18th chapter) “My Losing Season” and can barely finish reading about the hazing Pat Conroy experienced at the Citadel. Initiations may abound within the military; I don’t know how widespread they are. But as a former Navy seaman, I had a touch of it as a rite of passage when a first-timer crosses the Equator. Through an initiation he (and now she as well) is transformed from a pollywog to a shellback by crawling on one’s knees, standing mail buoy watch, cooling off the anchor with spoonfuls of water, kissing the grease smeared belly of King Neptune, and more.
Compared to what Mr Conroy suffered at the hands of his seniors, a year long torment full of idiotic commands and contentious intents to destroy the spirit and mental stability of a plebe, becoming a shellback was a walk in the park. Still, as I view it, any and all initiations, no matter the reason or imagined accomplishment, is a useless and godless waste of time and humanity. I detest the very mention of the word and pray, one day, it will all be halted forever. Young men get seriously hurt, both physically and mentally, and others laugh about this? The practice is inhumane and ugly, and capable of turning countless plebes into more and more Great Santinis.